Unbecoming You
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When someone refers to something as “unbecoming” in therapy, they typically mean that a certain behavior, attitude, or action doesn’t align with a person’s best or most authentic self. It’s often used to describe actions that feel out of character, inappropriate, or not in line with someone’s values or who they aspire to be.
In the context of therapy, if a therapist says something is “unbecoming” of you, they might be gently pointing out a pattern or behavior that isn’t helpful, healthy, or true to your authentic self–something that might be hindering your growth or well-being. It’s a way of encouraging self-reflection and helping you recognize behaviors or thoughts that might not serve you.
Reflecting on your behavior or patterns in therapy can really bring up some important insights. It’s interesting because sometimes, what we might think is “normal” or justified can turn out to be “unbecoming” in the sense that it doesn’t serve us well in the long run.
In Internal Family Systems (IFS), the idea is that we all have different parts within us–some are more protective, others are more vulnerable, and some may even feel like the “unbecoming” parts of us. Those parts might act in ways that aren’t aligned with our true, core self, often because of past experiences or unresolved emotions.
In that context, when something feels “unbecoming” it could be a protective part that’s taking over in a way that no longer serves you. For example, an inner critic or a part that’s driven by shame might act in ways that feel out of alignment with who you really are or who you want to be.
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